I believe that all bad fortune can be conquered through endurance, courage and hope.
In life we can't control what's happening but we can strive to control the way we respond to what's happening. Nothing, except our thoughts, is totally in our control. We can create our misery or joy independent of our surroundings.
Certain aspects of the future are out of our control. Concern yourself with what is in your control.
LEARNING FROM ZEN ARCHERY
A Zen Archer will practice proper breathing, good form and concentration. He can buy the finest bows and the most exquisite arrows. These things are in his control, Once he releases his arrow, he must let it fly. At this point many outside variables can influence the outcome. Wind, terrain, the weather; these things can effect the arrow's flight. Since the Archer cannot completely adjust for all these variables before he shoots his arrow, they are not in his control. He should embrace and accept what is not in his control.
Of course validation comes from hitting the target, it is the successful conclusion to a task. The Archer should not find his self-worth from hitting the bullseye. I am not saying that there is not much to learn from failure (perhaps everything worth learning) only that his validation should not depend on his success, just his betterment.
INNER JOURNEY
If you should decide to heroically embark in a journey of self analysis you might find it painful. Use the pain to take action, make the changes that are necessary to prevent yourself from living a sort of blissfully dissatisfied life, or what the group Pink Floyd referred to as being "comfortably numb."
Do not regard hardships or adversity as misfortunes, instead view them as learning experiences.
Excessive worry about the future causes anxiety. Embrace you fate and enjoy life.
BETRAYAL
Sometimes in relationships or friendships, we project our feelings unto other people. We think that if we care so much about someone that person should feel the same way about us. We delude ourselves. Some people's brains are wired differently. They will lie to your face without any qualms. They will cheat you, deceive you and attempt to destroy your wellbeing. They are only motivated by their own desires. We get blindsided and are vulnerable because we have exposed our inner self to them. What should we do when we experience betrayal? It is best to let go. Don't fight for resolution, don't ask for explanations and don't pursue answers. There is a time to cross over bridges and there is a time to burn them down and build new ones.
CONCLUSION
Wonder is the beginning of wisdom. Pay attention to even the most smallest details in life. Be open minded to new ideas and remain flexible in your thoughts. Treat all your endeavors with care, focus, intensiveness and passion.
About the Author:
Judd Bank is the President of CPI Investigations and a life long Martial Artist.
http://www.privatedetectiveny.com
