One out of every 25 people is a sociopath or exhibits extreme narcissistic behavior according to researchers today.
While mapping out the brain, a group of neuroscientists in stamford, discovered that the area in which we feel pain, overlaps the area in which we feel empathy. Sociopaths do not make this connection. They are self absorbed and don't feel the pain of others.
The problem is that sociopaths are all around us, but don't stand out in obvious ways and may be difficult to detect.
In this article, I will concentrate on Sociopathic behavior in the workplace and in our personal relationships. The trouble is that sociopathic behavior is often rewarded in the workplace. Sociopaths can be quite charismatic. In our relationships, the people we care about are the ones we give the power to manipulate us the most.
If the sociopath has a position of power over you, he or she would act a bully. If your co-worker or loved one's friend is a sociopath, he or she would act as a snake sabotaging you at any opportunity they get.
Sociopaths know the price of everything and the value of nothing. They will lie to your face with no hint of remorse. They do not want you to succeed and won't support you for fear of who you may become. They are completely self centered and absorbed. They sometimes act like hyper-aggressive two year olds. They are master manipulators.
Being subject to the remorseless list and evil manipulations of someone who has decided to mess with your life would be both terrifying and demoralizing.
"if you hate a person you hate something in them that is a part of yourself. What isn't a part of yourself does'nt disturb us." - Hermann Hesse
WHY DO WE LET THEM TAKE ADVANTAGE OF US?
Sociopaths have a keen ability to sense our weaknesses. They attack what Japanese Budo practitioners call Kosshi Points (vulnerable targets). They attack our fears, insecurities and lack of confidence.
HOW DO WE DEAL WITH SOCIOPATHIC PEOPLE?
First, get your mind, spirit and body in the right place. Begin by getting in touch with what Carl Gustave Jung called your shadow side, the darker regions of your subconscious. This step is important, enables us to resist being exploited and gives us the strength to withstand tragedy and malevolence in order to fight back. Learn to become a dangerous person.
Next study yourself, what make you unique? Where do your values come from? Why do you do things the way you do? Develop your self confidence and self esteem in order to confront you fears.
Pay attention to your talents, achievements and advantages.
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Set goals for yourself, start with small ones first, and then build upon your success. Achieving your goals would be your ticket out of your undesirable situation. Treat your conversations with a sociopath like a battlefield. Your words and your ideas are your weapons.
Pick your battles. "You will never reach your destination, if you stop and throw rocks at every dog that barks". - Winston Churchill.
If you have observed these traits in an individual and believe that person is a sociopath, beware of having an emotional response during your confrontation with them. A sociopath will take them as weaknesses and try to use them against you. Sometimes its best not to meet a hostile force head on, instead roll with the punches until you find the opportunity to strike.
When confronting a sociopath assume a relaxed posture, breath naturally, and be sure to take a moment before you answer them in order to compose yourself and contemplate your best response. Stay alert and try not to be intimidated.
As George Harrison once sang "beware of darkness"
bout the Author:
Judd Bank is the President of CPI Investigations and a life long Martial Artist.
http://www.privatedetectiveny.com
